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Craig
51 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 39 - 50
I’m a really wonderful person - just ask me. I’m thoughtful, caring, compassionate, funny, easy-going, generous, … Did I mention funny? There; now that that’s out of the way: I’m a retired probate and trust lawyer. Well not so much retired as disabled. (Fortunately, I’m more financially secure that I was when I was working.) While surfing in December 2018, I was hit in the head by another’s surfboard and drowned. I was given CPR and resuscitated, but woke 6 days later with a C4-5 spinal fusion and a prognosis that I may never walk again. I’m very fortunate that the prognosis was incorrect - my spinal injury is not “complete” (like Christopher Reeve’s was). It is “incomplete,” which means I have use and control of my body, but the nerve damage was substantial and is slow to recover. I will always have noticeable effects and limitations, but I continue to make slow progress. I have always been an optimist and consider the glass half full. I often say, “It is what it is.” (If you know the fable about the White Horse, kudos to you.) For the first year I used a wheelchair, but I threw that aside (figuratively) as soon as I got use of my legs back. For the last almost 2 years now I have used a walker - though I’m really really slow, and it appears that I will need to use a walker for a long long time to come. I fight each day to make a little more progress, which is truly by the millimeter. What is most challenging is that I have limited functional use of my hands, but I continue occupational therapy and make slow progress there too. If you are still reading, you are either really bored or you otherwise have a soft spot in your heart for the crippled guy - a person who takes in strays. I grew up in Southern California. I got out of there as soon as they started putting in toll roads. I took a “vow of poverty” to stay in San Luis Obispo - where I have lived for the last 25 years, and have never regretted it for a moment. Before my accident, I was very active - always go-go-go: surfing, golfing, snowboarding, baseball and softball, backpacking and camping and hiking, travel, etc. Since my accident, well, … my world has gotten pretty small. Covid mirrored that as everybody’s world seemed to shrink by sheltering in place. I have a host of friends and a wonderful support group. I keep busy teaching law school online and working with other attorneys and former clients. I have always considered my life’s purpose - be it work or otherwise, to be helpful to others. My personal goal for as long as I can remember, though I have obviously fallen way way short, has been to try and help someone each day - but they cannot find out about it; if anybody finds out about it, it doesn’t count. (So I can’t tell you about the times when I did a good deed because then you would know and then it wouldn’t count.) I love binge watching Game of Thrones and Shameless. If you get Shameless, you get me. It is said that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. If so, I am witless. I see humor in everything. (If you don’t learn to laugh at yourself, you will miss the greatest joke in your own generation.) I always laugh and am exceedingly slow to anger. I am very much a “live and let live” kind of person. I do not watch the news, and I do not talk politics - even with people who agree. I consider myself Libertarian in many areas and think government is too big. There; that’s enough of that! I do not drink. I stopped many years ago because it was ruining my life. I hang out with lots of other people who don’t drink anymore either. It is a very fulfilling life and gives me great purpose to be helpful to others. But I of course absolutely do not mind at all others partaking - be it wine with dinner or letting loose on the weekend. I enjoy cigars and consider myself an aficionado. To one who does not smoke cigars, it is not enjoyable to be sure. But their development and creation is akin to winemaking; the various blends for a developed pallet are noticeably remarkable. And I gotta have my coffee. I have no children of my own but am now adopting (adult adoption) my 26-year-old stepdaughter who is truly the most amazing person I have ever known. The adoption will be completed in November 2021, and I will thereafter finalize my divorce. My (soon to be ex) wife was incredibly supportive during all of my accident and recovery. But it turned out that she, unbeknownst to me, had “left” our then-15 year marriage in 2017 -- a year before my accident. (Details intentionally omitted.) So what does the future hold? Who knows? I would think most people in the end want the same thing: a wonderfully compatible companion to share life’s ups and downs - - with emphasis placed on “compatible” and even more emphasis placed on “wonderful.” I don’t know if it is “unfortunate” (reference White Horse story) or not, but my future apparently does not include a lot of surfing, golfing, snowboarding, baseball and softball, backpacking and hiking, etc. It looks like for the remainder of my life I am relegated to being a spectator. So it looks like if I find that “wonderfully compatible companion,” it will be someone for whom these activities are not on the top of their to-do list, or at least with me keeping up. Fortunately though, travel can be a spectator sport, and so that is where I am putting a lot of my focus and energy. Well, that and I plan to learn to scuba dive. I have countless friends and acquaintances and am not looking for online chatting and correspondence. I’m not looking to casually date. Nor do I have a “need” to find a LTR. But I figured “what the hell”, I might as well look online and maybe - just maybe, there is some incredibly wonderfully compatible person out there at this moment. Someone who makes me want to drop everything and go to the ends of the earth to be with them and want to stay with them always; someone with whom I’m destined to share life’s ups and downs, whether that be here in California or wherever she lives - or maybe even in a bungalow in Costa Rica or Kauai? One never knows :-)
Jerry
65 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 25 - 44
Christopher
51 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 42 - 42
Carl
67 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 30 - 50
Eric
24 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 18 - 31
Justin
38 San Luis Obispo, California, United States
Seeking: Female 22 - 38